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Rachel Glendinning

Light Centre Moorgate
114 London Wall
London
EC2M 5QA

e: bloomwellbeing@gmail.com

 

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114 London Wall
London, EC2M 5QA
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+44 (0)7974 081741

Rachel Glendinning is a qualified practitioner of the Grinberg Method. The method teaches people how to make changes in their life

Inspirational blog writing about wellbeing

Rachel finds great pleasure in expressing her knowledge and experiences through the power of words. Enjoy!

How do you rate your self esteem?

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Despite having many clients through my door struggling with low self esteem and confidence I had not personally given it much thought of how much I owe to my parents for establishing a healthy and overflowing level of worth and self esteem for myself.

Much of the personal development work I do with clients takes them back to childhood. I currently have 5 men and women who had trauma from childhood in the way they were treated by their parents and a need for rebuilding self esteem.

Self esteem is how we value ourselves, our worth in the world and how we compare ourselves to others. It becomes our point of reference; one in which we see the world through.

It is not about being told you are perfect and actions leading to an inflated ego, entitlement and superiority. We can probably all think of someone who bares these traits and this is the other extreme. A subject for another day.

Low self esteem develops from someone constantly chipping away at your confidence. From someone regularly criticising, judging and saying you are not doing something well. It comes from parents who themselves were not loved .A boss, parent, teacher or spouse may come to mind. It is a form of abuse and very damaging. 

Having made the connection of the actions my parents took with encouragement, support,positivity and honesty; when I sit and hear the situations of some of my clients it becomes heart breaking. More so because I have my own child.

And this is the thing - often we repeat the past. My partner had a horrible man of a father and repeats some of his traits.We often repeat the experiences we had and were shown as children. My first hand experience of being constantly criticised and put down by him over the last few years got me down but it did not break me. Luckily because I had such a healthy base and foundation of being told to go for it and encouraged and praised, my self worth stayed firmly in tact. I feel grateful for this and understand that I am the perfect person to teach others how to stop emotional abuse and refuse it as I did and will continue to do. When we do not hold the experience of how it feels to be supported, encouraged and adored it can be harder to recognise that it is the norm not the exception. 

I plan to document my own journey and those of other separated parents along the way. And why? To work to change the stigma of solo parents and my sense is many people are in unhealthy relationships that need a direct conversation and changes to happen or to get the hell out.If it is something you wish to collaborate with me please be in touch. 

Staying in any situation that does not make us feel well is crazy, despite how frightening or painful the change ahead looks or feels. 

With time and healing I can confidently say you can build your self esteem, self worth and how you value yourself back up. I have many success stories with clients and it a real honour to accompany them on that journey. 

Email me for a free consultation call if you recognise some the struggles for yourself. 

bloomwellbeing@gmail.com

To our being well x 

 

 

Who is following Gary Vee?

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The importance of paying attention to what you need alongside the goals and dreams.

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One of the reasons for Gary Vee's success is he has mastered where he puts his focus and attention. He spoke about this fascination from when he was a young boy. I don't know enough about the guy and his businesses but it simply reconfirmed to me what I have learnt through years in my practice with clients. Where we have our attention is crucial.

So check for yourself where is most of your energy and focus right now in your life? 

- Is it busy with deliberating about a situation you hate and you are afraid to take the next step to set yourself free?

- Do you get stressed with an overload of things to do - family, partner,work,life? 

- Do you know that you need to invest in or ask for support in your business or home life but keep putting it off and trying to manage.

One area I have witnessed very close to home is the damage and reduced focus when someone has an illness or chronic symptoms. I have seen how it effects the person directly and those around them.

It is great to see so many more people investing in personal development with mentors and coaches but parallel to this we need to know how to pay attention to our bodies and not burn out or end up with chronic symptoms through living too much in our heads and detached from what our bodies need. My mission continues. 

I have been so excited to start working with a number of new clients going through big life changes and the difference in the way I coach is we always include the body. 

So Gary Vee, You are smashing it and I hope you are keeping body attention as part of your skill set ;)

Please share and contact me for any further details.

 

 

What does it mean to be well?

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Today I am as curious and invested in the work of wellbeing in peoples' lives as I was when I started out on my adventure 20 years ago. So what does it mean in our modern lives to be well?

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Here are the subjects that come to mind for us to consider :

- How well do I sleep? 

- Do I have an established morning and evening routine to open and close the day in a deliberate and powerful way?

- Am I without aches and pains physically? 

- Do I feel when I need to move and exercise? Through my own process of letting go of control and fixed ways of being I learnt to listen to when I needed to exercise rather than force myself with a military style schedule. The shift moved away from an obsession with exercising to make my body look a certain way to the focus of feeling good, strong and fit. Ie working my muscles and cardio system as posed to working to attain a certain image. Familiar to anyone?

- What addictions and habits do I have with food and drink? Take time to really be clear and honest with yourself. For me my weekly habits with alcohol have stopped and I drink very occasionally. Once or twice a month max. Alcohol has never agreed with my system and that's for you to explore for yourself. Despite what the media say about the benefits of wine or alcohol, I think it is up there with the damaging effects of sugar. Working with clients who quit the habit, immediate benefits include reduced blood pressure, improved sleep and digestion,weight loss and feeling more stable emotionally. 

- Food is a more complex subject and a blog for another day but I would initially get you to breathe and pay attention to how you feel your belly. How do feel your hunger ? Are there any tensions or efforts when you think about the subject of eating and food? It can start as a very physical awareness. Food plays a very important role in how we function but also as a very simple pleasurable act in life. Do you allow it to be pleasurable or is it something you highly control? 

- Speaking of pleasure another subject I have worked often with clients is the subject of sex and intimacy and orgasm. I have no desire to be a relationship or sex coach but the success I have in teaching people to be "well" is being open to all subjects relevant to being a human being. 

- Sex and money are two subjects that we hide away from each other and don't talk about. For most of you would you agree? Culturally,society does not encourage sex and money to be talked about freely growing up. Let me know if you were an exception to this trend!!

- Interestingly both are a basic need for all of us and my perception is because we don't have clean relationships and consistency of maintaining them in our lives, often we struggle with times of lack and blocks.Like everything, conversely addictions can exist with sex and money where there is a fixation and an imbalance to the other extreme.

- surroundings and living conditions. Are you living in a space and place that fits you well? I personally am making changes and am clear about where I want to live and how my living setup will change. Acknowledging something is not how you want it to be is the first step. 

- relationships. To be well and relaxed with our relating to others demands boundaries and trust. Stopping the habit of being above and below each other is a part of my work with clients and is a work in progress to eradicate the ugliness we do to one another.

- profession and purpose - do I feel I am doing what I really want to do as a profession. What my heart desires? The common question - if money was no object what would I spend my time doing ? 

To our being well. 

ps If I missed something that you wish to add reply to the comments.

 

 

Does love demand you to be active or passive ? Both

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"It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power."

The above quote I first came across 15 years ago and it speaks to me as powerfully now as it did then when I was making a huge life change to quit my professional career in advertising and take a leap of faith into the unknown to start my own wellbeing business. 

What came to me today, was when there is someone or something we love, it demands courage to dive in and discover and commit to that relationship. On the flip side when we are in a situation - a job position or a relationship that are not fulfilling and we are not in love, it also takes courage and personal responsibility to step into the unknown to explore and partake in the journey of being open to expand and change.

So here is the thing - we need courage to follow what we love, or what we think we love. Would you agree? Did you ever equate action and courage to love outside of the fixation with the feelings of love which are focused on in our culture? 

Feelings are passive and courage is an action. To be courageous means to act upon something. 

So most of the time - if we are in a situation that is unfulfilling or a situation that we love, both demand action and courage and discovery. With love comes fear and pain. If we love someone or something often it becomes an intense ride and the possibility of losing that thing or person. Is this bringing any personal experiences to the forefront? Most of us get so frozen with fear to take the step into the new and stay with the safe and familiar. And I get it, the unknown is scary and we may mess up, or make a mistake but your heart knows it is more painful and scary staying in a shitty situation than finding your courage to act. What do you say ? Am I making sense? Am I talking to you? 

It frustrates me that we are heavily conditioned by our culture and love is a huge struggle for many of us. To find the profession we love and want to invest in and commit our whole beings to ( including our hearts ) and to find the relationships we wish to open and act in courage to. 

I have no idea of the statistics of how many of us love what we do or are truly in a deeply loving marriage or relationship but my guess is very small. If anyone has some data to pass me please do ;)

So in continuing to support men and women on the journey of life to find satisfaction and love in what you do and who you chose to commit to, I leave you with the quote above and for you to ask if a change is calling you with all its fear and pain ;)
To our being well xx
Ps if you are going through a life change and would like support and more info on how to work with me, email - bloomwellbeing@gmail.com

 

 

messy play

Rachel Glendinning

Fear can be an energy that either serves or blocks us in moving forwards in our lives. During my 20 years of working with human potential it remains a common subject in our culture. 

Over the last 3 Months I have been tweaking and changing who my ideal client is and feeling not quite there with it. Until this week when everything fell into place. It sat well with me and I feel excited to launch myself as the UK's No 1 Life Change Coach. 

The last 3 Months have been a process of changing my mind, working with my mentor, trying this and that and it not feeling quite right. And you know what I have two choices. To feel nervous and foolish that I have changed the context and direction in who I want to work with several times and worry what people think or practice what I preach and get on with it. To allow myself to get messy and try things and mess up and come back fighting and continue my higher intention and vision of being of service and transforming the lives of thousands and thousands more peoples lives which is my mission and my passion. Being of service becomes more important than my fear of being judged or messing up.

So, if it something that you yourself are not good at,and let's face it the schooling we experience and nature of being British do not set us up for making mistakes. We learn to try to please, to look good,to compete, to be good girls and boys. So as a new mother I am learning from my son and enjoying some messy play. Go and play and get messy. Allow your fear to join in and report back if anything really bad happens ;)

To our being well and living on purpose. 

Ps. If you are going through a life change - it could be quitting your job and starting a business or going through a separation or divorce. It could be finding your feet in wanting to start a family. Contact me for a free call and see if I can support you. bloomwellbeing@gmail.com

 

Through making mistakes and trying things is how we gain clarity on the things we want in life.
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Are you struggling with a dilemma?

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Are you struggling with a dilemma whether to leave a job, leave your husband? Read on

 me daydreaming in Richmond Park. When in a dilemma we find ourselves a million miles away from a relaxed mind but my wish is that you can get there.

me daydreaming in Richmond Park. When in a dilemma we find ourselves a million miles away from a relaxed mind but my wish is that you can get there.


I want to first comment that I have taken some time to decide whether to share this recent personal dilemma as it involves my partner and child and when we share personal stories there often comes a feeling of vulnerability. Mainly of being judged and also recognising that there are others involved who are being mentioned to the world ;) 

So I share my stories to be of service and not to gloat or impress you that I found a way up and over the mountain of a struggle and you have not. It is to impress upon you that if I can do it you can too and my absolute mission is to share the tools I have and use all the time to support me through the ups and downs of our modern living.

The dilemma I have been facing is whether to stay with my partner and put in more effort and attention to my relationship or whether to call it a day and go our separate ways. A common dilemma yes !! You may be reading this and facing the same dilemma yourself. We have a 15 month old which adds an extra ingredient into the mix. 

What decision for me came out of my dilemma exercise is not the important part of my blog here. Although because I know you are all nosey and curious ( that is human beings all around) I will share that I am staying with my partner and things are absolutely improving through the actions I have taken. This is just my truth in the situation and if you are also deciding whether to stay with your husband it might be the truth for you that it is over. One is not better than the other it is moving into freedom and relief because you touched the truth and stopped the reaction and lies you are telling yourself.

This is the beauty of my exercise. The power comes from stopping all the  automatic reactions we have in a situation which then allows us to find clarity and take the necessary actions.

As an example, I realised that my default when in situations that get challenging or something is not working I jump ship for an easier ride ( or at least that is what my head is fighting to have me believe ). You see when I did this exercise and sat with the belief that leaving my partner will be easier this was not what my body was telling me. To live alone with my toddler would not be easier even though my mind convinced me it would. And yes my partner has been peeing me off but this is the reality of all relationships and a blog for another time ;)

When I look back at my history of romantic relationships, more often than not when things begin to need more investment and attention I am quick to escape. This time I chose differently and it feels fresh and I am so glad I have these little gem of a tool that has helped me make the right decision and shine a light on the truth rather than stay stuck with what my head would like to believe and judge. To your being free from your minds conclusions and getting clearer with your heart's desire. 

Follow the sign up section me on the homepage of my website to get the exercise.

 

 

 

What does the way we treat our partner have in common with how much money we have?

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As I work through a 6 month business mentoring program I reached the cash adventure module and didn't think for a minute it would turn my attention to look at how I am treating my partner. But this was exactly what it did and my mentor asked me the following questions via the online course - How are you treating your partner ? and how would you like to be with your partner?

So why do we need to consider these questions to allow more money and cash flow into our lives ? Because the relationship we have with ourselves and with our partner is likely to be a direct relationship of how open we are to give and receive money. I have heard people talk about money being the same energy as love which for my practical,logical brain is a bit woo woo ;) 

That said, something is really shifting for me and I definitely am putting more attention on how I would like to be with my partner which softens the edges and highlights some action points to take. Babysitter and date nights are on the list ;)

I have no intention to go into a money coaching session now but simply wanted to share these questions and if something might resonate with sensing the energy and care you give to your partner - or lack of? and the relationship you hold with money. Is there room for more giving and receiving of love from your partner and need or want for your financial situation to be boosted?

So how are you treating your partner ( and money ) and how would you like it to be?

I am always curious to hear comments so please share.

Ps. the image is of a lovely date night me and my partner had before our little boy arrived in our world. Could you dig out some pics for yourself to get you motivated to get dating again?

If you are having a real struggle in your relationship right now drop me a message on my welcome page for a clarity call www.rachelglendinning.com

Happy Monday lovely ladies

 

Why are we ashamed of pain?

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A picture of me jumping for joy echoes how I am feeling today. For the last 9 months I have struggled with coccyx pain and today it is 90% gone. If you have had any kind of chronic physical pain you will know too well the dulling of life it creates, the constant niggle that effects your mood, your energy, your joie de vivre. All of these got me. I became irritable, extra tired ( not sure how this marks on a scale given the lack of sleep already attributed to having a baby !! ) But I felt constantly drained of energy. Today, my head is clearer and my energy is returned. I feel myself again.

As many of us do, I had a few different reactions to my pain. Some days I ignored it and pushed on through. Other days It got me down and I became a victim to it. Other days I got angry and frustrated,sometimes tearful. But overall I did pay attention to it. Pain is there calling your attention for a good reason. Something needs healing.

I have held a close relationship with pain for the last 13 years, working with thousands of people in my practice. Just that it was never my own. I managed to have a great sensitivity to my clients of the struggle and torture they went through but not through personal experience. Now I get it.

One article suggests that half of all UK adults suffer from chronic pain so it is likely that many of you reading this will know too well how pain changes your quality of life. 

My own personal story stemmed from the birth of my baby. Post c-section began my relationship with ongoing coccyx pain. As a wellbeing practitioner I am lucky to have many experts around me but nothing really helped. I stayed away from painkillers. My thoughts on our ease of swallowing pain killers is a subject for another day. 

So life with a new born and navigating the relationship with my partner definitely meant it took me longer to make changes. Taking a step back a month ago I realised the heightened stress state I was existing in. A normal state for us women trying to do everything well - the home, the baby, the work, looking good. And more often than not in the way our lives have evolved with very little hands on support. I lost both my mother and stepfather in the space of 3 years and am not the best for asking for help. Familiar?

The interconnection of our mind,bodies and emotions is skirted over in the medical world but in my opinion ( and it is only my opinion ) an enquiry in to what is going on in someones life emotionally and mentally as well as the physical examination is key. 

A month ago as things seemed to fall more into place in my role as a mum and with my partner I found space to really listen to what I needed. Most days I do some movement and meditation and am a big advocate for prayer and asking for guidance. Through this practice and space I gave to myself the right things came that I needed. One was an amazing supplement that has helped my coccyx and the other a transforming pain video that sits on my website but I had forgotten about.

 So, today is a very happy day. Pain free and with my attention back in the world again I have a new mission. To work with all you mums who could do with tips, guidance and support to keeping yourself sane and well ;) And back pain sufferers - I have a sense there are many of you. Come and work with me - www.rachelglendinning.com.

Anyone reading this and suffering with pain or know someone who could benefit check out the Transforming Pain video on my website under Videos from others. Please message me and let me know if it helps.

 

Living without Mother

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It has been a while since I wrote a piece on my website but I feel the calling to return and share. The last 6 months have been an incredible journey of adventures,travelling and newness. Starting with my 40th birthday gift in Bali, this beautiful land taught me so much about feminine qualities and funnily enough I sit here typing 3 months pregnant with my first child. If you ever get to visit Bali I highly recommend. The energy is very special and nurturing.

And speaking of nurturing, today through painful moments of deeply missing my mum came a blessing. I would never have imagined I would be entering into some of the most special and sacred times of my life without my best friend and confidant, my mum. It is such a huge gap that no words can fill. What I do know that arises from this heartache is a great strength to create a group, a network for others touched by the same loss. And so through death comes birth, and this is a project I feel very moved to create and nurture. Watch this space.

Qualified Practitioner of the Grinberg Method – 10,000 hours rule

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Today I found myself contemplating that familiar question of what I would do if money was no object. It felt comforting that the honest answer was doing exactly the profession I am doing which I love – the Grinberg Method and giving sessions. Each hour with a client is precious and through teaching and giving I gain so much.

It is almost a year since I qualified as a practitioner and received my diploma and I recall it mentioned a few times of being a discipline similar to martial arts. At the time I had no experience of any martial art but now as a student of Xendo in London I reflect weekly on ”a black belt is a white belt who never stopped training“. There is a clear crossover between my practice as a kickboxing student and my practice as a practitioner. Neither art i can become excellent at without hours of dedication and experience.

When I become lazy and find excuses not to go to my kickboxing class the possibility for continued learning and reaching my next grade slips away. I am sure you will know this experience for any craft that is part of your life.

In the book outliers, Malcolm Gladwell states it takes 10,000 hours of dedicated practice to become truly excellent and master any skill be it playing the piano, or computer programming and in my case becoming excellent at my profession and one day mastering the black belt!!

Privilege and good luck can ease the way but there is no substitute for 10,000 hours of working.

Loving what you do is important if you want to become a master in a craft. Perhaps it can turn the pain into pleasure.

Pain relief with the Grinberg Method

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One of the aspects of my work in teaching people to be well is working to teach people to stop reactions to pain. The statistics of the number of people dependent on pain killers and tranquillisers in the UK alone is horrifying.

I have mixed feelings towards the pharmaceutical industry – i don t see it as entirely bad as many conditions require medical intervention and i have no problem with taking the odd pain killer and antibiotics are a life saver if we need them. The method i practice is not an alternative to dr s but i believe we need to take more responsibility for our personal wellbeing.

Dr s have more and more choices of drugs to prescribe you and less and less time to explore or at least discuss the causes of your disturbance and suffering.

The escalating problem i do see is many of us wanting quick fixes and avoiding the root causes of chronic conditions and physical and emotional pain.

If you are ready to take responsibility for your health then i look forward to hearing from you.